Just the other day … chatting with friends … out of no were Long Distance Relationships topic came out and a discussion went on … and the weightage was more given to “Long Distance Relationships don’t work out” …
So just thoughts were thinking over the weekend … Challenging and difficult, they may not be the words we want to hear, thou that best describe long distance relationships. However, not impossible. Many people choose to give a long distance relationship a try, with the constant curiosity if it was the right decision to make and if it even stands a chance. The truth is, a long distance relationship has just as much a chance of succeeding as any other relationship!!!
Long Distance Relationships share the same facts as an average relationship. It involves two people who share an interest in each other's lives, care for one another and have a love for each other that they hope will only continue to grow. On the other hand, a long distance relationship does have its differences as well. It takes away your ability to see each other on a frequent basis, not to mention that there would be major trust required. Being unable to spend time together in a physical presence makes it harder to hang on to, but does not spell out doom for your relationship.
Agreement of what your expectations are in the relationship and how much of a commitment you are willing to give and receive. If the two decide to be one, then it is clear that neither will be dating anyone else as long as romantic relationship exists. Being clear about what both want is extremely important, especially in a long distance relationship, in order to prevent future misunderstandings and mistakes. Don’t feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, both deserve the chance to speak from heart and he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.
Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty, the relationship is in for danger and unsuccessfulness, just as it would be any other relationship. By accepting the challenge of a long distance relationship, you also accept the fact that you will have to have the trust and faith that your partner will not be seeing anyone else as promised. Being suspicion and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between the two and none of those three will help the relationship survive successfully.
Keeping each other informed of the friendships you have with other people and the events that take place in your personal life is a great way to keep your relationship alive and healthy; and continues to make your partner a part of your life. It is essential that you receive the same information from your partner as well give and take, so you both feel the same security and satisfaction that you both crave. Being creative with the way you keep in touch, such as calling, e-mailing, and whatever you can think of …
Planning reunions play a big part in keeping your relationship exciting, plus serve you the satisfaction of being able to see each other occasionally. It gives you the opportunity to catch up on each other's life in person. Setting a limit of how long you will be apart is a wise thing to do if you do not want to end up waiting forever. There will be a day when you and your partner will have to start planning a serious future.
With the right amount of effort and interest on both parts, a long distance relationship can survive the obstacles; it will frequently be challenged with. As long as you both refresh your memories of why you chose to do this in the first place, trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep in touch, and visit, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed. You both will be secure, happy and satisfied until the day comes when you will re-unite for good and build your wonderful future together.
To anyone out there who isn't sure....just go with what feels right. Don't rush anything especially in a very long distant relationship. Patience IS a virtue!
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